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You don't always have to chop with the sword of truth. You can point with it, too.
page: 156
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feedback
criticism
My first response to criticism is never profound relief that I have someone in my life who will be honest with me and help me do the very best work of which I am capable. No, my first thought is, "Well. I'm sorry, but I can't be friends with you anymore, because you have too many problems. And you have a bad personality. And a bad character."
page: 166
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criticism
Part Four: Be a leader: How to change people without giving offense or arousing resentment.
1. Begin with praise and honest appreciation.
2. Call attention to people's mistakes indirectly.
3. Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person.
4. Ask questions instead of giving direct orders.
5. Let the other person save face.
6. Praise the slightest improvement and praise every improvement. Be "hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise."
7. Give the other person a fine reputation to live up to.
8. Use encouragement. Make the fault seem easy to correct.
9. Make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest.
page: 236
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leadership
praise
criticism
(p) The word 'but' following praise and leading into criticism infers a failure and diminishes the praise. Change 'but' to 'and' to make the criticism more indirect and not diminish the praise.
page: 200
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criticism
praise
"I have no right to say or do anything that diminishes a man in his own eyes. What matters is not what I think of him, but what he thinks of himself. Hurting a man in his dignity is a crime."
page: 214
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criticism
...when criticism is minimized and praise emphasized, the good things people do will be reinforced and the poorer things will atrophy for lack of attention.
page: 217
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praise
criticism
Abilities wither under criticism; they blossom under encouragement.
page: 220
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criticism
encouragement
Pinpoint your audience, or your end up making your art for the loudest, crankiest critics. Trying to please everyone results in mediocrity.
page: 94
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audience
criticism
mediocrity
Don't listen to the cynics; they're cynics for a reason. For them, the resistance won a long time ago. When the resistance tells you not to listen to something, read something, or attend something, go. Do it. It's not an accident that successful people read more books.
page: 126
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criticism
cynicism
resistance