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miete ("thought") + lause ("phrase")
count: 6
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"Do not internalize the industrial model. You are not one of the myriad of interchangeable pieces, but a unique human being, and if you've got something to say, __say it__, and think well of yourself while you're learning to say it better."
page: 6
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candor
Too many people instinctively don't express themselves with frankness. They keep their mouths shut in order to make people feel better or to avoid conflict, and they sugarcoat bad news in order to maintain appearances. They keep things to themselves, hoarding information. It spawns bureaucracy, layers, politicking, and false politeness.
page: 25
tags:
candor
We are socialized from childhood to soften bad news or to make nice about awkward subjects. You don't insult your mother's cooking or call your best friend fat or tell an elderly aunt that you hated her wedding gift. You just don't. Candor just unnerves people.
page: 29
tags:
candor
Not being candid is actually about self-interest - making your own life easier. When you tell it like it is, you can so easily create a mess - anger, pain, confusion, sadness, resentment. To make matters worse, you then feel compelled to clean up that mess, which can be awful and awkward and time-consuming.
page: 29
tags:
candor
When people avoid candor in order to curry favor with other people, they actually destroy trust, and in that way, they ultimately erode society.
page: 30
tags:
candor
Trust happens when leaders are transparent, candid, and keep their word.
page: 71
tags:
trust
candor